Today is my best friends birthday, really I call her my sister friend, cause that's what she is. We have known each other for over 25 years. We have helped each other through a lot of hard stuff during those 25 years and celebrated a lot of good things together. Saying good bye to our parents, horrible health issues, marriages, divorces and the arrival of her beautiful grandkids. And I could not begin to tell you the shopping stories, the eating stories, the giggling stories (remember the pop in the theatre, Judy?)
I still remember the exact moment she told me that her husband had taken a job in Minnesota and they were moving. It took me a very long time to understand that this was a good thing for them. I freely admit I was very angry for a long time at her husband for taking my best friend away from me. ( Imagine my surprise when I came to realize it wasn't all about me, it was what was best for them!)
We made a commitment to each other that we would maintain our friendship and not allow distance to break it. It takes work on both our parts, but we have protected and nourished this important relationship. We make sure we spend at least a few days together every year and we skype or phone every week or so. My dream was that we would someday end up little old ladies in Arizona together but those darn grand babies have put a kink in that. But we will keep stealing our time whenever we can and we know that at least in heaven we will be in the same neighborhood.
We have been able to spend long weekends together the last few years in Door County to celebrate our birthdays. Judy would kill me if I posted some of the pictures we have taken over the years ( and I would veto a few of them myself), so I will only put up a few of us doing what we love to do.